Life is an ongoing dance of change, but how often do you actually notice change happening? Often we’re so busy managing our daily routines and responsibilities that we don’t recognise transformation until it has already taken place.
Outer change vs. inner change
This is especially true for changes that come from outside. The shifts triggered by external events, whether it’s a sudden job loss, an unexpected accident, or the end of a relationship, can catch us off guard. In these moments, change can feel like an unwelcome force imposed upon us.
Yet there’s another dimension of change – the kind that originates from within, the change we deliberately choose. This is when we decide: “I’m going to look for a new job” or “I’m going to start dating again.”
In these moments, we may be aware that a process is beginning to unfold, from realising the need for change to achieving the desired outcome.
Managing change is a subtle art
Some changes are easy to recognise. Signing a contract or falling in love are clear markers. But what about the subtler shifts – gaining self-confidence, increasing balance, or conquering fears? These transformations require a heightened self-awareness, an ability to perceive nuances within ourselves.
This is where coaching steps in. It supports you not just in creating change, but in doing so consciously. It’s a process that nurtures self-awareness, a crucial aspect often overlooked in the hustle of everyday life.
Let’s acknowledge that not acting on necessary changes can lead to undesirable states of being – stress, frustration, anger. Often we stay stuck in these states for longer than we need to, because we’re unsure about how to get started with something new.
And honestly, change is not always easy. Some decisions are intricate and challenging, requiring a gradual buildup to meaningful life changes.
Yet managing change, like any skill, can be learned and honed. You can get better at it.
Your perspective is what counts
I’ve noticed that the perspective we hold on change is crucial. By enhancing our self-awareness, even events that once appeared disastrous may reveal themselves as opportunities for growth. Those seemingly destructive occurrences in your life often paved the way for changes you might never have initiated otherwise.
My own life has been a tapestry of major changes, including some painful ones. Events that, at first, felt like they happened to me. Yet part of my self-development journey has been choosing not to see myself as a victim but, rather, understanding how these events shaped me and what advantages or opportunities they created.
This kind of mindset shift can be hard work, but is highly rewarding – potentially even life-changing.
If you’re ready to embrace change consciously, to develop a deeper understanding of yourself, and to navigate the ebb and flow of life with greater resilience, you’re in the right place. Let’s embark on this journey together.
Because change isn’t just a part of life – it’s the very essence of living. And the ability to master change can be one of your most valuable skills.